This really captures the difference between being protected and being controlled. Wanting trust doesn’t mean rejecting your family’s love—it means wanting the space to grow, make mistakes, and learn while still knowing you have them to come back to. 🤍🌱
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Sometimes what they call “protecting” feels like controlling every breath. Care should give you safety—not take away your freedom.
Anonymous6 days ago▲ 4
Yes, very often parents use the term "Protection", but what they really mean is "restriction". Because it's easier to say no, then to explain why something might be bad.
If they can teach us why some things are not safe or should be avoided, then we can learn to make those decisions better for ourselves as we get older. But explaining fears is very hard, i think. Definitely harder than just saying, "I am the adult, you listed to me". And that's why even parents with lots of love can struggle with this. I hope we all learn from this and do differently for the next generation of kids.
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This is so well said. It really highlights the difference between teaching someone how to navigate the world versus just keeping them in a bubble.
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Sometimes what they call “protecting” feels like controlling every breath. Care should give you safety—not take away your freedom.
Yes, very often parents use the term "Protection", but what they really mean is "restriction". Because it's easier to say no, then to explain why something might be bad. If they can teach us why some things are not safe or should be avoided, then we can learn to make those decisions better for ourselves as we get older. But explaining fears is very hard, i think. Definitely harder than just saying, "I am the adult, you listed to me". And that's why even parents with lots of love can struggle with this. I hope we all learn from this and do differently for the next generation of kids.
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